Have a Life Outside of Being a Mother

Single Mom Life Outside of Little League or Dance Class

There is no denying that being a mom is likely one of the greatest joys in life. The little toes that quickly grow into toddler feet that carry dirt and mud tracks into the house are what you live for as a mom, right? These moments are great and while our little ones grow so quickly, it seems that the days and nights of little league games, dance class, cheer camp, boy scouts and girl scouts are never-ending.

Although these are among some of the best times of parenthood, many single moms easily lose their identity and become known as a soccer mom or cheer mom. These are proud titles to have but sometimes, you just want to be known or referred to in a different way. What about your accomplishments outside of being a mom? Do people not remember or care about those things that mean so very much to you. While people may forget or care not to reference those things, it’s important that as a mom, you don’t lose sight of your accomplishments or dreams. You must keep striving to build the life that makes you happy because when you’re happy, the kids notice, and it makes for a happier home.

Here are a few ways for single moms to stay in touch with the things in life that help them remain true to themselves.

• Don’t Give Up on Your Dreams/Goals – it may seem difficult to obtain that degree or start that business while being a single mom. However, there are little steps you can take along the way. Take a class during the summer, online or at a community college if time or circumstance don’t allow you to enroll full-time right now. The important thing is that you’re taking little steps towards your goal. Research grants and start-up tips for your new business even if you don’t have the money to invest at the time. You will be surprised at the connections you make along the way.

 

• Invest in Yourself – how many times have you heard the story of the mom that let herself go? While it is true that our kids deserve all our attention, don’t forget to share some of the attention with yourself. Throw on a little lip gloss, curl your hair and paint your toes, even if it is just to sit in your living room or help your kids with homework. You’ll feel better about yourself and it will reflect in your attitude.

 

• Engage in Your Own Social Events – it’s true that 27 hours of your day is committed to the kids and their activities. However, you must take a few hours of the week to enjoy an event or activity of your own. Enroll in Zumba, take a painting class or enjoy a dance class. Whatever you do, enjoy the moment without the kids and live a little with others who are adulting while living a hectic life.

As a single mom, you must realize that giving back to yourself is the best thing you can do for your kids. It keeps you healthy, happy and you feel less resentment. You can absolutely be happy while taking care of the kids and doing things for yourself too.

This article was originally posted on www.midlifesinglemommy.com March 2018

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